Now that the Spring solstice is upon us, many of us will break out the Clorox, sweep under the area rugs and clear out closets of items we no longer wear. Getting your house together is wonderful, and I encourage you to replace the old with the new, but, what about your spiritual and mental spaces? Are you neglecting them? While many of us focus our attention on altering the outer, it’s a must that we clean out our inside spaces as well. Far too often we hold onto hurt, regret, pain and other volatile emotions. Although these feelings don’t hurt as intensely as they use to, the fact remains that you need to heal yourself and forgive yourself.
During this time of renewal and growth I encourage you to reach out to old friends and acquaintances whom you often catch yourself day dreaming or inquiring about through a third party. Chances are they miss your company just as much as they miss yours. What we must remember is that change is the only constant variable in life. You are not the same person you were at sixteen, eighteen or even two weeks ago. You have encountered circumstances that have altered your perception. Make amends, if only to clear your conscious.
We've all done things that our parents, religious leaders and most importantly ourselves would not approve of—its okay; it’s already been done. But have you forgiven yourself? So what you told a lie. So what you flashed spring breakers in panama. So what you had a baby out of wedlock…live moves on! Until you are able to hold yourself accountable and forgive yourself, how do you expect others to? Those dark spots in life built your character! The universe cannot forgive you, until you forgive you. Hold your head up, stick your chest out, look in the mirror and forgive yourself; heal yourself
Remember your worth
Admit it, you've settled. You've settled for that mediocre job you punch in and out of every day. You’ve settled for that forced relationship you’re in. You've even settled with not finishing projects you started but never completed. As much as I would like to tell you that its okay, and I understand that life got in the way…I won’t lie to you. You are greatness…you are above average…you are the relief for your own headache. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop making excuses to stay in your current situation—be the change you want to see.
Shake the Nay-Sayers
I get it, your support system doesn’t believe in your vision, they can’t appreciate your passion. Far too often you’ve heard “ Rapping won’t pay the bills”… “Modeling is not a guaranteed cash cow” … “The fashion industry is overpopulated; you’ll never make it.” Can I be blunt?—Screw them! Do you believe in you? Do you make constant strides to make useful connections? Do you constantly work to improve your craft? If you can honestly answer yes then you are already on the right track. You have one life to live with no reset button. Don’t live a life full of what if’s and shoulda, coulda, woulda’s. If your friends don’t support your dream; find other friends. Your parents don’t agree with your career aspirations? Remind them that it’s your life; they lived theirs. The tongue and the mind are powerful tools in the right hands. Dust off your imagination, time to create something distinctly yours.
Dear friend, freeing and forgiving yourself will not be easy. However, it will be worth it. I encourage you, I support you, I believe in you. It’s time that you believe in yourself. Until next time…
Stephen "TheeBlackSocialite" Hale